Yes We Do

January marks our 4th wedding anniversary. When you've been married as long as us sans children, people bring up the question, "When are you guys going to have a baby?" It is a very valid question, and seeing as Nathan and I both come from large families, one would assume we would want kids of our own. So this post is to answer the questions burning inside of you in regards to Nathan and I starting a family.

Yes, we want to have children, it just isn't happening for us like we planned. We started "trying" back in March hoping to get pregnant sometime between then and August. We figured the timing would be perfect for my work schedule because I would have the baby in the second semester of school and then it would lead into the time I have off for the Summer.

Well, as months began to pass, by menstrual cycle never regulated once I stopped the pill.
As a teenager, I never had a regular period. I figured playing on the basketball, volleyball and track and field teams I was considered pretty athletic. Yet, after high school it never did really quite regulate. It was only regular while on the pill. Now tying to get pregnant this serves as a major issue.

A few months back, my doctor recommended Nathan and I start infertility treatment. So in September we had our preliminary blood work done. Through this process, it was revealed that I never received the Rubella Vaccine in my childhood. I was informed that I need to do this and afterward I cannot become pregnant for 3 months due to the adverse affect the vaccine could have on a fetus. I received this news in the beginning of October. The noticed informed me that I can go in and get the vaccine 3 days into my next period to ensure I am not pregnant. Well, I haven't had a period since September (no I am not pregnant). So I have been waiting indefinitely for my period to start so I can get the vaccine. I finally contacted my doctor this weekend and informed her about what is going on.

She stated that I am most likely not ovulating and that is why I am not menstruating. She prescribed me a medication called Provera which will make me have a period. It won't fix my issue with ovulation, but it will stop the lining of my uterus from continually building up which could lead to cancer or endometriosis in the long run. I will also receive the Rubella Vaccine this week. I took a pregnancy test this morning just to make sure I am not pregnant.

After receiving the vaccine, we will move forward with infertility testing to try to diagnose what the issue is behind my lack of ovulation and period to decide what method is best for us to try to conceive a baby.

For now, Nathan and I continue to live our lives enjoying the two of us. We continue to make plans for the future and enjoy the blessing we have.

I am sharing this story because who knows, maybe there is someone out there who has, or is struggling with the same issues of conceiving a child. If so please leave a comment. It is nice to know we are not alone in this.

Share your thoughts :

  1. Oh Melody! I am sorry to hear this, but medicine and infertility treatments have come along way and many people have great success with it all! I wish you all the luck and just don't stress over it, bc you will make it harder to conceive. Just trust in the Lord and when the right time comes, it will happen! :-) Enjoy your time now with your hubby, new home and traveling!

  2. I know how you feel. I never had a normal cycle and when Harrison and I started "trying" we didn't know what was going to happen. Surprisingly, we did get pregnant and even my doctor told me that he was surprised I was pregnant due to an abnormal cycle. I know that I am now pregnant because the Lord knew it was right for us. I know you will be blessed accordingly, just trust the Lord and I am sure it will work out. I hope the best and pray that things will be fine with you to be able to have your family.

  3. I love you my friend and admire how strong and honest you are! You have always had those qualities! Life has a funny way of working things out and I know it will for you and Nathan. Like you said, you are enjoying one another now, and please enjoy! Make the most of ever moment together. Love is one of the greatest foundations that make a family. Take care of yourself too!
    Love and miss you! xoxox

  4. So so so sorry to hear you guys are struggling with this. I know too many people who are in your shoes and it just plain sucks.

    We thought we were going to have a problem getting pregnant as well. I only had a few periods in my teen years, averaged about 4 a year while on the pill and didn't have one for 2 years after I got off the pill. I was working with a fertility Dr when I got pregnant with Lucy. I hadn't started any treatments, just had begun blood work and ultrasounds. We actually got pregnant the first time we had sex without using protection, crazy huh? I couldn't track ovulation with the pee sticks and both the Dr and I figured it wasn't happening because I wasn't getting a period. So, it isn't impossible to ovulate without a period, it's just unlikely. I think the pill really screws people up. My sister in law is having the same problems and she's been off the pill for 3 years now. I won't ever go back on it. When we decide we are done having kids, Josh will have a little work done. I'm not going to deal with the artificial hormones again. They were nothing but trouble for me.

    Anyway, I hope it happens soon for you guys. Being a parent is the best thing in the world and you two will be great at it.

  5. I don't know if you remember me. I'm Stephanie Romney. Anyways, I too have always had irregular cycles and would go years in high school without one. With both my pregnancies I wasn't having a cycle after going off Birth control. But I still got pregnant, twice.
    I keep hearing more and more woman having a hard time getting pregnant these days. I have another friend that is in the same boat and is going through fertility treatments. I think I got lucky both times considering I just found out that I have a blood clotting disorder while I was pregnant with my second. Good luck with everything. You will be in our prayers.

  6. Thank you for sharing your personal feelings regarding this sensitive topic. It's nice to read what your friends have to say. You are well loved. Dad I will continue to keep you both in our prayers. The LOrd works in mysterious ways.

  7. I'm sorry you are having to go through it all. I know exactly what you're feeling, You've probably read what we went through to get our 3 miracle babies, it was a long road but very much worth it. Just keep faith and positive thinking:) You will be a mommy soon♥

  8. Melody! I think you are so brave for sharing this. I know things will work out for your good and in due time. Keep faith. Lots of love your way!

  9. When you're young and unmarried and dream of having a family one day, you don't imagine that you could be one of the many women who struggle with getting pregnant. I always just assumed having a family would be easy (and actually, for me it was), but I know of so many women who have a difficult time of it. At least for now you have two adorable little K9's who I'm sure love all the attention they get from their mommy.


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